“I’ve looked at life from both sides now
From up and down, and still somehow
It’s life’s illusions I recall
I really don’t know life at all.”
Joni Mitchell, “Both Sides Now”
I have lived most of my life in a disguise. I suppose that’s the polite way of saying it. The harsh truth is that for the first 50+ years of my life, I was living a lie. But no matter: I’m living my truth now, living the life I was always meant to live, and being the person I was all along. I didn’t become a woman; I simply decided to live openly as who I always was.
But that’s just background. The point I wish to make is that having experienced life from both a male and a female point of view,1 I am in a unique position to understand and counsel both men and women. This, I believe, gives me a certain advantage as a Companion: the ability to see life, love,and emotions from, as Joni Mitchell put it, “both sides now.”
1– This is a simplified view of a complex issue: for the longest time I experienced life from the view of someone who was socialized male. Since my transition, I now am treated as one who is female.